Hi Hannah! I just wanted to be another positive sibling gap story for you :) My brother and I are five years apart, and we’ve always been close. When we were kids, we would go from playing together to bickering and fighting like siblings who were closer in age. Now that we’re older, we have a really positive relationship *because of the age gap*! We stopped fighting early on because I matured faster, and I’ve been able to be a positive adult figure in his teenage life (who can counteract some of the negative conservative messaging from my parents). I can buy him tickets to things my parents never would (concerts, plays, etc) and spoil him with gifts on holidays. He’s in college now across the country, and we still talk 2-3 times a week!
Hi Hannah, also just jumping in to share a positive age gap story! My brother is 4 years younger than me and I never wished for a smaller gap. I remember him being born which is pretty cool! We didn't fight much and actually were super close and had so much fun together when we were little. Even now we're still close and the age gap feels like nothing. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your family ❤️
My sister ist 5 and a half years older than me and turned 30 this year, wohoo! My parents always say that we were planned that way, because it fit their lifestyle at the time. My sister was born when they were young and my dad still in university, so he had a lot of free time for her and I was born when he was already a teacher and my parents had more money to support a second kid. She is my favourite person in the whole world and we have a really close relationship (we even live like 10 minutes apart and spend a lot of time together, it's great!). I don't remember this, but I know it wasn't always easy for her having such a younger sibling (who was destroying all her Legos trying to take the first steps) but as we grew older our relationship only grew stronger! I was devastated when she moved out to got to university (I was 14 and felt like an only child, she moved 5 hours away by train). But now, us being adults, we are having a great time together and I feel like I can learn a lot from her!
Greeting from Germany to you and happy holidays! <3
Hi! I'll jump in with another positive age gap story because this trend in the comments seems so wholesome ✨
I'm the older of three siblings, they're close in age (they're 17 and 18), but have a larger age gap with me (23). I love my role as an older sister, especially now. They ask me questions often, about school, clothes, relationships, mental health, plans for their future, etc. We trust and believe in each other, and we're always part of each other's lives, even now that I've moved out. I think it's nice for them to have an older sister that has already gone through similar challenges (being a teen is hard!) and can make things a little bit easier for them. In turn, I get to see them grow up into amazing, talented human beings 💜
I’ve got a nearly 4 year old and I’ve been trying for another for nearly a year too. I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, which has been really tough. I’m not concerned about the age gap myself, I have a sister who is 3.5 years younger and a sister who is 11 years younger. I’ve always had a great relationship even as a child. Feeling like I’ve been going through the TTC journey alongside you. ❤️
Hi Hannah! Sending lots of good thoughts your way. I really appreciate your honesty and thoughtfulness on all things parenting and motherhood. I wanted to share - my husband has a brother who is 2 years older than him, and he has a sister who is 7 years younger. My husband has a great relationship with both of his siblings, but he has always been closer with his younger sister, and they have a really lovely relationship. He has lots of memories of helping care for her when she was little, and they've always had a lot of fun together. From observing my own friends I've also seen that a bigger gap is just so much easier in terms of logistics. My friends who have two kids 4 years apart are soooooo much more relaxed than our friends who have gone through having a baby and toddler at the same time.
It never occurred to me that it can be a heavier burden trying to conceive for baby 2, thank you for opening up about that! ❤️ Also, my sisters are 5 & 6 years older than me and I never felt weird about it. If anything, I think it taught me some good things about age too, like how random milestones can be and that you don’t need to be at certain points in your life at a certain age :) I’m going to keep my fingers crossed the feisty holiday baby making successes rub off on you!! 🎆
Sending love you Hannah! While I’m not actively trying to conceive, I’ve been struggling with my own infertility journey the last few years due to my endometriosis. I found out young that I may need to freeze my eggs to ensure a chance at a biological child/pregnancy (to have a child a time I would be ready). Being in America, there’s a huge pay wall in both egg freezing and in treating the endometriosis itself. Even the future scariness of losing or having a very difficult time conceiving naturally in the future has really been getting to me. It means so much to hear stories like this and to normalize complicated fertility journeys.
Also! My sister and I have a 4 year age gap and it’s never been an issue for us 💗💗
Hi Hannah! I just wanted to be another positive sibling gap story for you :) My brother and I are five years apart, and we’ve always been close. When we were kids, we would go from playing together to bickering and fighting like siblings who were closer in age. Now that we’re older, we have a really positive relationship *because of the age gap*! We stopped fighting early on because I matured faster, and I’ve been able to be a positive adult figure in his teenage life (who can counteract some of the negative conservative messaging from my parents). I can buy him tickets to things my parents never would (concerts, plays, etc) and spoil him with gifts on holidays. He’s in college now across the country, and we still talk 2-3 times a week!
Hi Hannah, also just jumping in to share a positive age gap story! My brother is 4 years younger than me and I never wished for a smaller gap. I remember him being born which is pretty cool! We didn't fight much and actually were super close and had so much fun together when we were little. Even now we're still close and the age gap feels like nothing. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your family ❤️
Hi Hannah, age gap sibling here :)
My sister ist 5 and a half years older than me and turned 30 this year, wohoo! My parents always say that we were planned that way, because it fit their lifestyle at the time. My sister was born when they were young and my dad still in university, so he had a lot of free time for her and I was born when he was already a teacher and my parents had more money to support a second kid. She is my favourite person in the whole world and we have a really close relationship (we even live like 10 minutes apart and spend a lot of time together, it's great!). I don't remember this, but I know it wasn't always easy for her having such a younger sibling (who was destroying all her Legos trying to take the first steps) but as we grew older our relationship only grew stronger! I was devastated when she moved out to got to university (I was 14 and felt like an only child, she moved 5 hours away by train). But now, us being adults, we are having a great time together and I feel like I can learn a lot from her!
Greeting from Germany to you and happy holidays! <3
Hi! I'll jump in with another positive age gap story because this trend in the comments seems so wholesome ✨
I'm the older of three siblings, they're close in age (they're 17 and 18), but have a larger age gap with me (23). I love my role as an older sister, especially now. They ask me questions often, about school, clothes, relationships, mental health, plans for their future, etc. We trust and believe in each other, and we're always part of each other's lives, even now that I've moved out. I think it's nice for them to have an older sister that has already gone through similar challenges (being a teen is hard!) and can make things a little bit easier for them. In turn, I get to see them grow up into amazing, talented human beings 💜
Sending you positive thoughts and vibes. Hang in there and keep taking care of yourself as much as you can.
Sending you much love 🙏🏻
I’ve got a nearly 4 year old and I’ve been trying for another for nearly a year too. I had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, which has been really tough. I’m not concerned about the age gap myself, I have a sister who is 3.5 years younger and a sister who is 11 years younger. I’ve always had a great relationship even as a child. Feeling like I’ve been going through the TTC journey alongside you. ❤️
Hi Hannah! Sending lots of good thoughts your way. I really appreciate your honesty and thoughtfulness on all things parenting and motherhood. I wanted to share - my husband has a brother who is 2 years older than him, and he has a sister who is 7 years younger. My husband has a great relationship with both of his siblings, but he has always been closer with his younger sister, and they have a really lovely relationship. He has lots of memories of helping care for her when she was little, and they've always had a lot of fun together. From observing my own friends I've also seen that a bigger gap is just so much easier in terms of logistics. My friends who have two kids 4 years apart are soooooo much more relaxed than our friends who have gone through having a baby and toddler at the same time.
It never occurred to me that it can be a heavier burden trying to conceive for baby 2, thank you for opening up about that! ❤️ Also, my sisters are 5 & 6 years older than me and I never felt weird about it. If anything, I think it taught me some good things about age too, like how random milestones can be and that you don’t need to be at certain points in your life at a certain age :) I’m going to keep my fingers crossed the feisty holiday baby making successes rub off on you!! 🎆
My brother and I are 12 years apart 😘
As having a sibling/ some of my best friends as a gap, honestly it is the best.
Some of my closest people are 4-5 years younger than me and it feels so special as I feel like they are a younger sibling at times.
Sending love you Hannah! While I’m not actively trying to conceive, I’ve been struggling with my own infertility journey the last few years due to my endometriosis. I found out young that I may need to freeze my eggs to ensure a chance at a biological child/pregnancy (to have a child a time I would be ready). Being in America, there’s a huge pay wall in both egg freezing and in treating the endometriosis itself. Even the future scariness of losing or having a very difficult time conceiving naturally in the future has really been getting to me. It means so much to hear stories like this and to normalize complicated fertility journeys.
Also! My sister and I have a 4 year age gap and it’s never been an issue for us 💗💗